If sex doesn’t result in an orgasm often enough for you, then there are a few things to consider. Today I want to share with you 6 positions that are great for reaching orgasm.
The following positions could absolutely help. But before we dive into them, I would like to give you a little context as to why you might not achieve orgasm when you want to. There is much more to great sex than just the physical aspects.
There are two other important factors to consider. One is your mindset, and this is a really common issue. Many women worry about how they look, smell or taste – or they feel guilt about receiving pleasure. All this mental chatter can be a barrier to orgasm.
If you are struggling to get in the mood, or to relax enough to enjoy sex, then ask yourself what’s going on for you.
How do you feel about sex in general?
How do you feel about your right to experience pleasure?
The other factor to consider is your health. In ability to orgasm can also be indicative of a possible medical issue.
Research shows that 40-45% of adult women will experience at least one sexual problem in their life. These issues tend to peak in midlife as women find their hormone levels dipping and their stress levels rising.
Although in an increasingly stressful society, we can see this at any age.
So your stress levels and mindset may be paths to explore if you experience any persistent difficulty with orgasm, or even getting into the mood in the first place. If you are worried then please do talk to your doctor.
With that said, let’s get into the physical positions you can try to enhance your chances of orgasm.
By lying on your stomach and allowing your partner to enter you from behind, he may have better access to your G-spot, which can shorten the time to orgasm considerably.
Lazy dog variation
Lie on your stomach with your legs squeezed shut together. He penetrates you deeply while on top of you – and you do kegels.
Keeping your legs together makes you tighter “down there,” and the kegels create even more friction, which can feel heavenly for both of you.
Try riding him cowgirl style, going up and down on him. Then have him suck, lick, and bite on your nipples until you climax. For many women, these dual sensations – resulting from both riding him and having him toy with your breasts – are enough to send them into the erotic bliss of orgasm.
Cowgirl or reverse cowgirl adaptation
Rub your clit against his penis. He holds his penis on your clit while you grind against it. This can be especially easy in the cowgirl or reverse cowgirl position, and this allows you to get super aroused by moving and thrusting your clit in a way that arouses you.
Lie on your back and pull up your legs to your shoulders while he pounds into you. Then, simultaneously rub your clitoris – and don’t hesitate to use your fingers to feel his penis move in and out, which can be exceptionally hot.
Missionary, with a difference!
Use a blindfold to block off your eyesight. By depriving yourself of the sense of sight, you are amplifying your other senses – which can give you a greater, more powerful orgasm experience.
Or how about holding a vibrator to your clit while he’s pummeling you in missionary position. In fact, try this with any other sex positions you like.
Here’s a bonus position, CEO…
Okay, this is more of a role than a position, but not to be overlooked!
Try taking more control of your sexuality, and open up to your partner about what you really want him to do to you – whether he’s giving you oral or penetrating you.
For a truly enjoyable sexual life, communication about your own desires and needs is incredibly important. Don’t be afraid to ask him to try whatever position appeals to you – mixing things up is great for keeping your relationship fresh.
Bonus tip – Don’t forget to breathe deeply during sex! The deep breaths help you block out distractions around you or in your mind. By focusing on the pleasure, you’ll reach orgasm quicker.
I’d like to leave you with this simple suggestion. Instead of worrying about the outcome of each sexual encounter, shift your attention to the mere pleasure of being close to your partner physically. Rather than becoming obsessed with wondering whether you will experience the expected feelings or orgasm, just focus on what you are actually feeling in the moment.
Try to relax and have fun!
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Dr. Andrea Pennington is a respected integrative medicine physician, acupuncturist, TV host & bestselling author specializing in longevity, sex education and life transformation with positive psychology and mindfulness.
She is author of The Orgasm Prescription for Women and the creator of The Attunement Meditation Process.
As an international TEDx & keynote speaker Dr. Andrea inspires audiences around the world to live with ageless vitality, passion & purpose.
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